Where to Find Love
(Part Five)
FOR young people whose names are often made giddy in love. Because, perhaps because so "can not stand" the love that is often seen throwing a tantrum. There Indonesian proverb which says "jinak-jinak merpati (pigeons)" near the eyes, out of mind, if left to go as close to, if approached in justri stay away, seems to play hard. Is this a one-sided love, or love Belak getting a response both parties. Do not know, confused right?
Therefore, to answer the distress the heart of many questions is there any love between us. Here there is a quiz that contains five questions from Charlie W. Shedd, in his book "How to Know if You're Really in Love" which has been summarized in a Reader's Digest (June 1982)
Certainly will be helpful, at least as consideration for an unmarried, about the perspective that marriage would have lived seeds that allows to grow with in the long term. Whereas those who are already married, to be used as material for consideration to cultivate their love.
First, the test for independence (The Liberty Test)
The first question is addressed to know whether we support each other to participate in the activities themselves are uncertain, to have friends with us separately, and to feel free as individuals?
Location of the greatness of the spirit of love is to 'create a space for freedom'. Obviously a good marriage provides an opportunity for both parties to develop a healthy self-reliance (a healty independence). There is no compulsion to follow the trend of each. "Cooking from the beginning until now, so , no changed too?" He said.
Couples who learn to be wise to have business-minded: "I marry, not to change , so like myself." But a conviction that each either alone or together / together can live in a breath as Kahlil Gibran katakana : "Let us have unity in the distance.." More importantly, "By marriage let us together to worship the divine blessing."
Second, self-absorbed test (The UnselffishnessTest)
Did a lot of positive things we support each other, not on the basis of ego (dominance) in our own respective parties. In a good marriage, mental maturity is not what would you do for me?, But what can I do for you. Love is not selfish-minded, "I love you because you, like you know what it is," That statement may be disclosed either orally or deed.
Third, the test sorry excuse (The mercy-Apology Test)
Do we refrain from criticizing the excessive towards our spouse. And if the greatness of our hearts are willing to admit our mistakes. "Forgive me, I'm sorry, I have been guilty." This case was in an effort to get to awetnya love. The art of apology is something simple, that is how we recognize the mistakes, regrets and submitted to apologize. Pure love that demands a great test to forgive each other.
Fourth, a test of sex (The Sex Test)
This test is most sensitive. Are we sensitive to the needs of our partner's sex. Ideal expectations about things from two different sexes can not be expected theoretical-to be exact. Therefore, a compromise is needed or the understanding. Then the necessary negotiations desired things to talk about harmony and a sense of peace that terinti (inner peace).
Fifth, the test about finance (The Money Test)
Art manages the finances of the family variety, can be simultaneously (a common phylosophy) or managed by consensus. Money can be used for pemeratu family, or could be a source of conflict. Do we agree in interpreting financial success. Etc.
If the five point test above, we can agree "no problem", we can conclude that we are in the flow towards a mature relationship of husband and wife. However, if there are still some questions that there is no agreement, would need attention or in the process of understanding each one specifically.
Nevertheless whatever the outcome, would need to be respected because we have made an effort in earnest. Then we resignation to Allah SWT (Sahih International) :
He said :"... And when you have decided, rely upon Allah. Indeed, Allah loves those who rely (UponHim)"(QS. Ali Imran: 159) ....Tafsir al-Jalalayn .... And when you are resolved to carry out what you with after councel; for God loves those who rely, onHim.
And Allaah knows best.
(A.Kuspriyanto/2010)
Selasa, 29 Juni 2010
Love is Not Love?
Where to Find Love
(Part Four)
It IS not easy to form the 'Singles'. Anywhere fancy. Climbed the mountain and down the mountain, adventure from village to village along the valley and up the canyon is not necessarily suited to the taste. If there was a crush, love may be unrequited. Already terlanjut 'desperate' love, it turns out he's just friends. Aduuh ... sorry.
Therefore, so we're not too disappointed, there are few signs of love that inspired writings of L. Kirkendall which suggests the existence of feelings of love but not love.
Get pleasure in seeing, misinterpreted as love.
Who does not like going out? Dating moments often creates a sense of fun. Happy feelings for a moment before, often also considered that each other has been suitable in various aspects of life. When in fact, not yet. Various problems such as in matters of finance, parenting etc.. In order to love the ripe necessary agreements and suitability in many respects it.
Pride misinterpreted as love.
People often feel proud seeing if it works for love of the idol group. "Here, I'm a bona fide hero, able to lure the seizure so beautiful. And I do not use prayers and incantations. He had lured his own "he says with great pride. Actually not necessarily indicate such feelings of love, but only a sense of satisfaction in the group subjected idol.''
Sexual attraction misinterpreted as love.
The eyes of people are going out less often inaccurate. If we see the curve of her body that 'fantastic', a sense of passion burning from physical contact, will mebuat shadows in favor of married life will be lived. "What a beautiful suppose I could sit side by side with you Dinda, amboiku, the most voluptuous", he said. Though not necessarily indicate such feelings of love, but only a mere lust temptation.
The desire to rebel misinterpreted as love.
The young who are in love, is not uncommon that in the transition period the values they have problems of their environment, especially the elderly. They feel very restricted in its movement interact. So that actually he wants rebel to gain autonomy and freedom. And it seems in the dating find a partner that she felt she could become a life partner to achieve their freedom from parental restraints, so he wanted to get married. Thus they have a feeling he thought both fall in love, but merely the urge to rebel.
Lust wants to have mistaken for love.
Lo lust or jealousy is like to have control or monopolize the embodiments lust, which means it is the symptoms of heart generality. That way she thought was love, when in fact it contains the freedom to love the lover who is also the protection order not to abuse the freedom.
Lust wants to beat others misinterpreted as love.
Dating among the youth, not infrequently the cause of competition. A competition to show the love that only want power and declared the winner. They are very proud to be able to beat other competitors. Feelings of love so he thought, but just the drive to win in the competition.
Desire to maintain the 'prestige' misinterpreted as love.
Dating among the youth, not rarely originated from the consequences of 'runaway love' because it has disappointed lover, thus pushing it to quickly find its place and want a quick marriage. Could be there's a saying in Indonesia "teklek kecemplung kalen, tinimbang golek haluwung balen ." As if she told her friend, "I actually did not love you. Wait, a minute longer will you hear I would soon marry degan others. "But such feelings when she thought the feeling of love to maintain their prestige.
Misinterpreted as a love gift giving.
Gifts among the young is often done as a form of attention or notice of love. Giving a gift can indeed lead to a sense of fun and an expression of pure love. However, that case does not always mean love but as a form of "subtle coercion" to the recipient in order to create continuity of a sweet relationship. Gifts of this sort usually come from one-sided love, or from the giver. Meanwhile, for the gift recipient feel good that she thought was a feeling of love, but just feeling bound or not the heart.
That's about a few things that can make us take a conclusion about the true feelings of love is not love. Certainly a very valuable learning to be missed and a very beautiful memory to be remembered so that we become smarter. Prophet warned: "People are smart people who can subdue their desires and do good for something after its death, later being stupid people (less common) are those who follow their desires and expectations of empty rely on God" (Narrated by Tirmidhi)
And Allaah knows best.
To be continued ...
(A. Kuspriyanto, Juny, 2010)
(Part Four)
It IS not easy to form the 'Singles'. Anywhere fancy. Climbed the mountain and down the mountain, adventure from village to village along the valley and up the canyon is not necessarily suited to the taste. If there was a crush, love may be unrequited. Already terlanjut 'desperate' love, it turns out he's just friends. Aduuh ... sorry.
Therefore, so we're not too disappointed, there are few signs of love that inspired writings of L. Kirkendall which suggests the existence of feelings of love but not love.
Get pleasure in seeing, misinterpreted as love.
Who does not like going out? Dating moments often creates a sense of fun. Happy feelings for a moment before, often also considered that each other has been suitable in various aspects of life. When in fact, not yet. Various problems such as in matters of finance, parenting etc.. In order to love the ripe necessary agreements and suitability in many respects it.
Pride misinterpreted as love.
People often feel proud seeing if it works for love of the idol group. "Here, I'm a bona fide hero, able to lure the seizure so beautiful. And I do not use prayers and incantations. He had lured his own "he says with great pride. Actually not necessarily indicate such feelings of love, but only a sense of satisfaction in the group subjected idol.''
Sexual attraction misinterpreted as love.
The eyes of people are going out less often inaccurate. If we see the curve of her body that 'fantastic', a sense of passion burning from physical contact, will mebuat shadows in favor of married life will be lived. "What a beautiful suppose I could sit side by side with you Dinda, amboiku, the most voluptuous", he said. Though not necessarily indicate such feelings of love, but only a mere lust temptation.
The desire to rebel misinterpreted as love.
The young who are in love, is not uncommon that in the transition period the values they have problems of their environment, especially the elderly. They feel very restricted in its movement interact. So that actually he wants rebel to gain autonomy and freedom. And it seems in the dating find a partner that she felt she could become a life partner to achieve their freedom from parental restraints, so he wanted to get married. Thus they have a feeling he thought both fall in love, but merely the urge to rebel.
Lust wants to have mistaken for love.
Lo lust or jealousy is like to have control or monopolize the embodiments lust, which means it is the symptoms of heart generality. That way she thought was love, when in fact it contains the freedom to love the lover who is also the protection order not to abuse the freedom.
Lust wants to beat others misinterpreted as love.
Dating among the youth, not infrequently the cause of competition. A competition to show the love that only want power and declared the winner. They are very proud to be able to beat other competitors. Feelings of love so he thought, but just the drive to win in the competition.
Desire to maintain the 'prestige' misinterpreted as love.
Dating among the youth, not rarely originated from the consequences of 'runaway love' because it has disappointed lover, thus pushing it to quickly find its place and want a quick marriage. Could be there's a saying in Indonesia "teklek kecemplung kalen, tinimbang golek haluwung balen ." As if she told her friend, "I actually did not love you. Wait, a minute longer will you hear I would soon marry degan others. "But such feelings when she thought the feeling of love to maintain their prestige.
Misinterpreted as a love gift giving.
Gifts among the young is often done as a form of attention or notice of love. Giving a gift can indeed lead to a sense of fun and an expression of pure love. However, that case does not always mean love but as a form of "subtle coercion" to the recipient in order to create continuity of a sweet relationship. Gifts of this sort usually come from one-sided love, or from the giver. Meanwhile, for the gift recipient feel good that she thought was a feeling of love, but just feeling bound or not the heart.
That's about a few things that can make us take a conclusion about the true feelings of love is not love. Certainly a very valuable learning to be missed and a very beautiful memory to be remembered so that we become smarter. Prophet warned: "People are smart people who can subdue their desires and do good for something after its death, later being stupid people (less common) are those who follow their desires and expectations of empty rely on God" (Narrated by Tirmidhi)
And Allaah knows best.
To be continued ...
(A. Kuspriyanto, Juny, 2010)
Five Kinds of Love
Where to Find Love
part three)
LOVE, Jalaluddin Rumi said, "is a healer for the pride and arrogance, and the entire lack of self. And only those who are robed in love alone is not entirely selfless. " Meanwhile, Charlie W Sheed stating that love can appear in any form of friendship, dating, laugh together, sex, fun with each other in their respective friends.
It seems that people would love each of appreciation, according to the angle of view and what was felt. Thus we will find all kinds of love. L. Saxton for example, divides the love in; love altruism, friendship, sexual love, and love romance. Clear how may people will sacrifice all he had without any love? Or without any motivation? Therefore, it is my opinion there are many labels in love based on the trend of the main motivations.
First, Love Content
It was fine when there is an underlying love with the main motivation for choice of material. Who the hell do not need money? Want a date need money, want to invite friends for a walk or eat in need of money, want to go to the Bathroom also need money. In short almost every activity of life requires the name of money. Especially living in metropolitan cities, it is very difficult to live without money, although money is not everything.
The first group, this seems to notice that takes place during both process and goal of love is absolutely needed materials. Therefore, these groups base their main motivation in finding love on the basis of material selection.
They are rich, which has a nice house, nice vehicles, other facilities are complete and so forth. They are the people "have the" will to hope and get a special room.
Second, love's face
The second group is seen as a great love, containing the aesthetic values that do not always have to be rewarded with money alone, the perfection of appearance (beauty, voluptuous, etc.) will become the main motivation in discovering her love choices. Could be, here the people are "hooked" since first sight. Beauty or the appearance of being based on perfect green eyes made the main parameters. And the lucky person who was blessed with a beautiful appearance, in the second group is certainly a prominent place.
Third, the love of rank or position
The third group was made the throne as the main motivation in discovering her love choices. It's throne or position will be attached to the power (legitimacy) with various amenities. With the title, so people can get a pride or self respect. And the lucky people who have a job though not handsome or beautiful, in the third group is certainly a prominent place.
Fourth, the love of family
The fourth group, this view that families or nasab / descent with various accessories in a family plays an important role. Is inevitable that love / marriage really is their love and their Families. And so the importance of the role of a family. Wealth, beauty, position is not the first consideration for this group. But the good descendants of the families 'particular' according to their size could be the main motivation of their material in determining the choice of his love.
In one of history Syaikhain hadith, the Prophet never told about the Arab women better than women Ajam. And the word of the best Arab woman from the nomadic tribe of Quraysh is righteous, since they are most dear to her children and her husband was maintaining property.
Fifth, the love of noble morality
The fifth group is to see love as a great nature and instinct in order to happiness in this world and the hereafter. Consideration of a noble morality as the implementation of religion run properly. as taught by the Prophet: "Women married for four things, namely: because of their possessions, because of his position, because of her beauty, and because of his religion. Then choose a woman who has a religion (strong religion) you would have been lucky. "(Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim by Abu Hurairah ra)
A Reflection Love
Various typologies of love on top, just an option depending on the actual decision to each party according to what he believed in his heart of hearts. Prophet had indeed been reminded of some possibilities of choice. According to the History presented by Imam Ibn Majah and Imam Ahmad Bayhaqi Bazaar and says: "Do not marry a woman for her beauty, because beauty can probably make it rebellious, and do not you marry a woman because of his wealth, because wealth can make it be perhaps too far, but you marry him because of his religion; and black female slaves sesunggguhnya more mainstream religion (rather than more affluent women are pretty weak, but his religion). "
People across the street had complained: "That was the real desire, but it was obtained by calm. Beautiful ... no, not rich .... Clever in religion, not really. Respected family, let alone. In fact, that got like this, not the desired result. "That's a mate" is a mystery ", and they give advice, he said:" Please, "Bang". Not bad, there is help cook, help wash the clothes, and some company to sleep. Just be thankful for, ... than can not. "he says entertaining.
We all know that the general criteria of the most important is the religion and morality. Who would get the love / married woman / man devout and noble personality, then he will gain happiness of the world and the hereafter. While other criteria, depending on the situation and condition of each. Like, what the friends Jabir ra, he married a widow with a consideration of women who never married will be better able to nurture and take care of his sisters are still small pouch from his late father. He prefers to fulfill their duty to the wishes of his late father rather than his own in choosing a wife. This is a noble attitude which Allah approves. Jabir attitude shows have been arriving at the level of personal maturity and wisdom as taught to think of the Prophet.
Wallahu 'alam bi shawab ash.
(A. Kuspriyanto, Juny ‘ 2010)
part three)
LOVE, Jalaluddin Rumi said, "is a healer for the pride and arrogance, and the entire lack of self. And only those who are robed in love alone is not entirely selfless. " Meanwhile, Charlie W Sheed stating that love can appear in any form of friendship, dating, laugh together, sex, fun with each other in their respective friends.
It seems that people would love each of appreciation, according to the angle of view and what was felt. Thus we will find all kinds of love. L. Saxton for example, divides the love in; love altruism, friendship, sexual love, and love romance. Clear how may people will sacrifice all he had without any love? Or without any motivation? Therefore, it is my opinion there are many labels in love based on the trend of the main motivations.
First, Love Content
It was fine when there is an underlying love with the main motivation for choice of material. Who the hell do not need money? Want a date need money, want to invite friends for a walk or eat in need of money, want to go to the Bathroom also need money. In short almost every activity of life requires the name of money. Especially living in metropolitan cities, it is very difficult to live without money, although money is not everything.
The first group, this seems to notice that takes place during both process and goal of love is absolutely needed materials. Therefore, these groups base their main motivation in finding love on the basis of material selection.
They are rich, which has a nice house, nice vehicles, other facilities are complete and so forth. They are the people "have the" will to hope and get a special room.
Second, love's face
The second group is seen as a great love, containing the aesthetic values that do not always have to be rewarded with money alone, the perfection of appearance (beauty, voluptuous, etc.) will become the main motivation in discovering her love choices. Could be, here the people are "hooked" since first sight. Beauty or the appearance of being based on perfect green eyes made the main parameters. And the lucky person who was blessed with a beautiful appearance, in the second group is certainly a prominent place.
Third, the love of rank or position
The third group was made the throne as the main motivation in discovering her love choices. It's throne or position will be attached to the power (legitimacy) with various amenities. With the title, so people can get a pride or self respect. And the lucky people who have a job though not handsome or beautiful, in the third group is certainly a prominent place.
Fourth, the love of family
The fourth group, this view that families or nasab / descent with various accessories in a family plays an important role. Is inevitable that love / marriage really is their love and their Families. And so the importance of the role of a family. Wealth, beauty, position is not the first consideration for this group. But the good descendants of the families 'particular' according to their size could be the main motivation of their material in determining the choice of his love.
In one of history Syaikhain hadith, the Prophet never told about the Arab women better than women Ajam. And the word of the best Arab woman from the nomadic tribe of Quraysh is righteous, since they are most dear to her children and her husband was maintaining property.
Fifth, the love of noble morality
The fifth group is to see love as a great nature and instinct in order to happiness in this world and the hereafter. Consideration of a noble morality as the implementation of religion run properly. as taught by the Prophet: "Women married for four things, namely: because of their possessions, because of his position, because of her beauty, and because of his religion. Then choose a woman who has a religion (strong religion) you would have been lucky. "(Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim by Abu Hurairah ra)
A Reflection Love
Various typologies of love on top, just an option depending on the actual decision to each party according to what he believed in his heart of hearts. Prophet had indeed been reminded of some possibilities of choice. According to the History presented by Imam Ibn Majah and Imam Ahmad Bayhaqi Bazaar and says: "Do not marry a woman for her beauty, because beauty can probably make it rebellious, and do not you marry a woman because of his wealth, because wealth can make it be perhaps too far, but you marry him because of his religion; and black female slaves sesunggguhnya more mainstream religion (rather than more affluent women are pretty weak, but his religion). "
People across the street had complained: "That was the real desire, but it was obtained by calm. Beautiful ... no, not rich .... Clever in religion, not really. Respected family, let alone. In fact, that got like this, not the desired result. "That's a mate" is a mystery ", and they give advice, he said:" Please, "Bang". Not bad, there is help cook, help wash the clothes, and some company to sleep. Just be thankful for, ... than can not. "he says entertaining.
We all know that the general criteria of the most important is the religion and morality. Who would get the love / married woman / man devout and noble personality, then he will gain happiness of the world and the hereafter. While other criteria, depending on the situation and condition of each. Like, what the friends Jabir ra, he married a widow with a consideration of women who never married will be better able to nurture and take care of his sisters are still small pouch from his late father. He prefers to fulfill their duty to the wishes of his late father rather than his own in choosing a wife. This is a noble attitude which Allah approves. Jabir attitude shows have been arriving at the level of personal maturity and wisdom as taught to think of the Prophet.
Wallahu 'alam bi shawab ash.
(A. Kuspriyanto, Juny ‘ 2010)
Minggu, 27 Juni 2010
Do Not Fear Love
Where to Find Love
(Part Two)
LOVE, is to save millions of flavors. Feeling that grows from the depths of the heart affected by the charm of love. Starting from the delicious flavors such as strawberry flavor, melon, durian, grapes, till the bitter-bitter taste like; taste papaya leaves, bitter melon or bitter taste 'brotowali'. Huuh .... so bitter!
How many times we witnessed uproar someone who seek to fill his heart with a longing for love. The length of the road it has traveled, the length of the night seems to have passed, but Where is seeking gem hearts, until the end of the world will be sought. That episode of the journey of love.
Kahlil Gibran in one of the fruits of his work:
He impresses our hearts and our souls cocker
He drugged conscience our conscience with promises
And if he fulfilled his promises
She woke boredom within us, and if he put off fulfilling his promise, he spent the patience in us.
Life is a woman who purify themselves in the pecintanya tears of people who loved him, and anointed his body with blood-sacrificial offerings.
He covered himself in the brilliance of the afternoon and evening clothes were covered with darkness.
He fell in love with the heart of men at the time of the first prime-time and forget herself in a marriage.
Do not Fear Love
We should live our lives with passion, to be able to accept and try to understand the nature of love as love. How could we possibly can find love, if we do not dare to fall in love.
Kabir Helminski in a book entitled The Knowing Heart: A Sufi Path of Transformation, he said: "We live in an ocean of love, but because he was so close to us, sometimes we need to be surprised or hurt, or experience some failure, so be aware of closeness and meaning of love. A small fish with no water being told that he would die, and he became very frightened. He swam to his mother and with trembling, told her mother about the importance of water. The mother said: "Unfortunately, water is a place where we were swimming."
Travel to find love, there will always accompany human life wherever they are, even though at the end of the world, they will seek it.
Will the move would halt with his old age, or because the travel time would disappear? The fundamental problem of course need to ask Where is the love we anchored, as is reminded of the Word of Allah SWT (Surah Ali Imran, 14), which means in Sahih International:
“Beautified for people is the love of that which they desire - of women and sons, heaped-up sums of gold and silver, fine branded horses, and cattle and tilled land. That is the enjoyment of worldly life, but Allah has with Him the best return”
Tafsir al-Jalalayn
Beautified for mankind is love of lusts, that which the self lusts after and calls for, beautified by Satan, or by God as a test — of women, children, stored-up heaps of gold and silver, horses of mark, fine [horses], cattle, namely, camels, cows and sheep, and tillage, the cultivation of land. That, which is mentioned, is the comfort of the life of this world, enjoyed while it lasts, but then perishes; but God — with Him is the more excellent abode, place of return, which is Paradise, and for this reason one should desire none other than this [abode].
Indonesian
Dijadikan indah pada (pandangan) manusia kecintaan kepada apa-apa yang diingini, yaitu: wanita-wanita, anak-anak, harta yang banyak dari jenis emas, perak, kuda pilihan, binatang-binatang ternak dan sawah ladang. Itulah kesenangan hidup di dunia, dan di sisi Allah-lah tempat kembali yang baik (surga).
Wallahu a'lam bi ash shawab
(A.Kuspriyanto, Mey, 2010, Everlasting your light : from various sources)
(Part Two)
LOVE, is to save millions of flavors. Feeling that grows from the depths of the heart affected by the charm of love. Starting from the delicious flavors such as strawberry flavor, melon, durian, grapes, till the bitter-bitter taste like; taste papaya leaves, bitter melon or bitter taste 'brotowali'. Huuh .... so bitter!
How many times we witnessed uproar someone who seek to fill his heart with a longing for love. The length of the road it has traveled, the length of the night seems to have passed, but Where is seeking gem hearts, until the end of the world will be sought. That episode of the journey of love.
Kahlil Gibran in one of the fruits of his work:
He impresses our hearts and our souls cocker
He drugged conscience our conscience with promises
And if he fulfilled his promises
She woke boredom within us, and if he put off fulfilling his promise, he spent the patience in us.
Life is a woman who purify themselves in the pecintanya tears of people who loved him, and anointed his body with blood-sacrificial offerings.
He covered himself in the brilliance of the afternoon and evening clothes were covered with darkness.
He fell in love with the heart of men at the time of the first prime-time and forget herself in a marriage.
Do not Fear Love
We should live our lives with passion, to be able to accept and try to understand the nature of love as love. How could we possibly can find love, if we do not dare to fall in love.
Kabir Helminski in a book entitled The Knowing Heart: A Sufi Path of Transformation, he said: "We live in an ocean of love, but because he was so close to us, sometimes we need to be surprised or hurt, or experience some failure, so be aware of closeness and meaning of love. A small fish with no water being told that he would die, and he became very frightened. He swam to his mother and with trembling, told her mother about the importance of water. The mother said: "Unfortunately, water is a place where we were swimming."
Travel to find love, there will always accompany human life wherever they are, even though at the end of the world, they will seek it.
Will the move would halt with his old age, or because the travel time would disappear? The fundamental problem of course need to ask Where is the love we anchored, as is reminded of the Word of Allah SWT (Surah Ali Imran, 14), which means in Sahih International:
“Beautified for people is the love of that which they desire - of women and sons, heaped-up sums of gold and silver, fine branded horses, and cattle and tilled land. That is the enjoyment of worldly life, but Allah has with Him the best return”
Tafsir al-Jalalayn
Beautified for mankind is love of lusts, that which the self lusts after and calls for, beautified by Satan, or by God as a test — of women, children, stored-up heaps of gold and silver, horses of mark, fine [horses], cattle, namely, camels, cows and sheep, and tillage, the cultivation of land. That, which is mentioned, is the comfort of the life of this world, enjoyed while it lasts, but then perishes; but God — with Him is the more excellent abode, place of return, which is Paradise, and for this reason one should desire none other than this [abode].
Indonesian
Dijadikan indah pada (pandangan) manusia kecintaan kepada apa-apa yang diingini, yaitu: wanita-wanita, anak-anak, harta yang banyak dari jenis emas, perak, kuda pilihan, binatang-binatang ternak dan sawah ladang. Itulah kesenangan hidup di dunia, dan di sisi Allah-lah tempat kembali yang baik (surga).
Wallahu a'lam bi ash shawab
(A.Kuspriyanto, Mey, 2010, Everlasting your light : from various sources)
Rabu, 23 Juni 2010
Pray For Any Disease
Terafi Pray With Drinking Water
HOW we are sometimes troubled with a disease that we suffer. Because various treatment efforts have been made, ranging from traditional medicine even in a modern, yet it also led to recovery from illness. So it is not possible because of a little desperate, finally dropped the option to go to "quack", which not only far from the teachings of religion, even medically could not be justified.
Here is another alternative, an attempt (effort) that treatment can be tried in order to recover from a disease that we suffer; Terafi pray with drinking water.
Based on a study conducted Dr. Masaru Emoto proved that water is able to respond well to treatment and intimation given to him, in the form of text, images and even words or sounds. Together Kazuya assistants, water crystals can be recorded in the picture, if the water is frozen at a temperature of 25 degrees centigrade min using high-tech cameras. Crystalline form produced depends on the treatment given to the water.
Apparently, water is able to record a message, such as magnetic tape or compact disc. Water molecules will form crystals of the most beautiful is the water with the words 'love' and 'thank you'. Instead of water molecules to form crystals that are not pretty even forming a hollow circle in the center when it is said to him "you're no good" or "you're stupid."
If we used to express thanks, always grateful and decorated with feelings of love, far from jealousy, envy, in our life, God willing, we facilitate the formation of water in our bodies into hexagonal crystals that are beneficial to health. Conversely, if the circumstances of life we are always colored by ignorance, hostility, jealousy, envy or a sense of gratitude not, then we will never obtain the hexagonal crystals, which is very useful for health, issued a toxin in our body.
Hexagonal water is water that contributes to bind the free radicals H and OH. Therefore, if this kind of water we drink, can cause a positive reaction in the form of detox or a homeostatic effect, ie back reaction to the toxin in our body.
How exactly do they work.
Consuming ordinary drinking water with the correct method, can purify the human body. This makes the colon more effective by forming new blood is known in medical terms as aematopaises. That mucousal folds of the colon and intestines are activated by this method, a fact which was not denied, as the theory that new fresh blood is produced by mucousal fold. When the colon is clean, then the nutritional foods eaten several times a day on food and nutrition will be absorbed this can be turned into new blood. The blood is all important in curing ailments and restoring health. Therefore, it is very important to consume water regularly to keep your body healthy.
How do therapy with drinking water.
The problem, whether it is possible to drink 1.5 liters of water at the same time? To begin with, will it difficult to drink 1.5 liters of water at one time, but will gradually get used to it. To begin the exercise, should try to drink four glasses first and the remaining 2 cups drunk two minutes later. At the beginning of the exercise, perhaps we would urinate two to three times an hour, but after a while, will return to normal. According to the research and experience, some diseases can be cured with time varies; constipation one day, uric acid 2 days, 7 days diabetes, blood pressure and cancer four weeks, and TBC 3 months.
It is recommended that patients with arthritis / joint pain and rheumatism implement this therapy three times a day, ie morning, afternoon and evening one hour before meals for one week, then two times daily until healed.
Do not Forget to pray
As a man who believed before the first drink to pray according to their respective beliefs. We must make sure that everything that happens in nature is the will of Allah SWT, then we must believe in him pleading for help. Rasulullah SAW said what means: "Every disease is no cure." (HR.Muslim)
Here are some prayers the following practices:
So perhaps an alternative treatment can be tried, with the hope of Allah SWT to give relief to the illness being suffered. Again this is just a business and nothing is impossible if Allah willed.
And Allaah knows best
(A. Kuspriyanto, from various sources)
HOW we are sometimes troubled with a disease that we suffer. Because various treatment efforts have been made, ranging from traditional medicine even in a modern, yet it also led to recovery from illness. So it is not possible because of a little desperate, finally dropped the option to go to "quack", which not only far from the teachings of religion, even medically could not be justified.
Here is another alternative, an attempt (effort) that treatment can be tried in order to recover from a disease that we suffer; Terafi pray with drinking water.
Based on a study conducted Dr. Masaru Emoto proved that water is able to respond well to treatment and intimation given to him, in the form of text, images and even words or sounds. Together Kazuya assistants, water crystals can be recorded in the picture, if the water is frozen at a temperature of 25 degrees centigrade min using high-tech cameras. Crystalline form produced depends on the treatment given to the water.
Apparently, water is able to record a message, such as magnetic tape or compact disc. Water molecules will form crystals of the most beautiful is the water with the words 'love' and 'thank you'. Instead of water molecules to form crystals that are not pretty even forming a hollow circle in the center when it is said to him "you're no good" or "you're stupid."
If we used to express thanks, always grateful and decorated with feelings of love, far from jealousy, envy, in our life, God willing, we facilitate the formation of water in our bodies into hexagonal crystals that are beneficial to health. Conversely, if the circumstances of life we are always colored by ignorance, hostility, jealousy, envy or a sense of gratitude not, then we will never obtain the hexagonal crystals, which is very useful for health, issued a toxin in our body.
Hexagonal water is water that contributes to bind the free radicals H and OH. Therefore, if this kind of water we drink, can cause a positive reaction in the form of detox or a homeostatic effect, ie back reaction to the toxin in our body.
How exactly do they work.
Consuming ordinary drinking water with the correct method, can purify the human body. This makes the colon more effective by forming new blood is known in medical terms as aematopaises. That mucousal folds of the colon and intestines are activated by this method, a fact which was not denied, as the theory that new fresh blood is produced by mucousal fold. When the colon is clean, then the nutritional foods eaten several times a day on food and nutrition will be absorbed this can be turned into new blood. The blood is all important in curing ailments and restoring health. Therefore, it is very important to consume water regularly to keep your body healthy.
How do therapy with drinking water.
- In the morning when I was just waking up (even without first brushing your teeth) drink 1.5 liters of water, ie 5-6 cups.Better premeasure 1.5 liters
- To note that the do not drink or eat anything an hour before and after drinking 1.5 liters of water;
- Must not drink alcohol the night before
- If necessary, use water that has been boiled or filtered water
The problem, whether it is possible to drink 1.5 liters of water at the same time? To begin with, will it difficult to drink 1.5 liters of water at one time, but will gradually get used to it. To begin the exercise, should try to drink four glasses first and the remaining 2 cups drunk two minutes later. At the beginning of the exercise, perhaps we would urinate two to three times an hour, but after a while, will return to normal. According to the research and experience, some diseases can be cured with time varies; constipation one day, uric acid 2 days, 7 days diabetes, blood pressure and cancer four weeks, and TBC 3 months.
It is recommended that patients with arthritis / joint pain and rheumatism implement this therapy three times a day, ie morning, afternoon and evening one hour before meals for one week, then two times daily until healed.
Do not Forget to pray
As a man who believed before the first drink to pray according to their respective beliefs. We must make sure that everything that happens in nature is the will of Allah SWT, then we must believe in him pleading for help. Rasulullah SAW said what means: "Every disease is no cure." (HR.Muslim)
Here are some prayers the following practices:
- Bismillahirrohmaanirrohiim, allahumma robbannaasi adzhibil ba'sa isyfi antasysyaafii laa syifaa illa syifa-uka Syifa-an laa yughaadiru saqaman read three times (By mentioning Asma Allah the Most Gracious, Most Merciful, O Lord God, Lord of Man, disease Heal it. Only You can heal, no healing except Your healing, ie healing the pain does not leave). Or;
- Bismillah x 3, a'udzu bi'izzatillahi wa qudratihii min syarri maa ajidu uhaadziru - read seven times Or;
- K.Mahfudz-Sha 'Roni (late) deeds conveying a prayer to heal their diseases.
So perhaps an alternative treatment can be tried, with the hope of Allah SWT to give relief to the illness being suffered. Again this is just a business and nothing is impossible if Allah willed.
And Allaah knows best
(A. Kuspriyanto, from various sources)
Love Offering
Where to Find Love
(Part One)
LOVE, a word of five letters that could be the most talked about. Love of course very relative. Can contain positive and negative meanings. On the positive side, with love will make life beautiful. If you look at the him, "ouch .. beauty", charming smile, he looked really stunning, her voice sounds. Short said "everything looks perfect", when in fact that others are assessing not the case. He said: "How your voice sounds, Dinda.". Though, actually "cemprengnya not playing." Therefore, there is a saying that says "love is blind". In addition to bringing the beauty of love, love, too, gave birth to the spirit of sacrifice. Let alone just waiting, he said in a song lyric:
I waited so long for your arrival Did not you have been promised we'll see you here Come, I waiting for your arrival It has long,long time I have been waiting for
Despite the long wait, because of love "not felt". Despite having to navigate the Indian Ocean, she said: "I'll join you." Maybe it really is a saying "Love will from it can not creep Nowhere Walk '- that love will creep where he could not walk." This means that the love will grow the courage to bear any risk, especially when love was so profound then anything might happen will be pursued as well. Expression of sacrificial love is never disclosed in one stanza poem Rabi'a Al 'Adawwiyah, he lived at the time of Caliph Harun al-Rashid
How sweet you are While life is bitter How good if you blessings Although all men hate
In one stanza poem that expressed by a beautiful girl in her time, which is famous for her beauty throughout the land, the name Bint Barriyah, also never expressed his love for his sincerity, his love for Sayid struggles Badawi:
O my fingers that read ink strokes Wisdom open the horizons for tasted Sincerity of my heart said to you moan Is love without limit ... I write about love in the hearts longing Hidden so deep in the recesses of my soul Although riding warlords able …I could not hide my heart said to you Indeed Love is not always with positive connotations, love can also significantly negative. A brave warlord could be losing the war for love: two people who fight each other even kill-kill due to issues of love, and there are many more other examples. That's love, the five letters that could make the problem will never be finished.
Phenomena Love
It feels lonely life without love. So, hidden treasures will be hidden forever. Without love, there is no a generation. That's something that can not be denied that love happens according to nature and instinct as the gifts of God Almighty.
Allah is saying, meaning: "And among his signs, that He created for you wives from among yourself, that you may find repose in them, and He hasput between you affection and mercy, verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. (Surah Ar-Rum (Rome) : 21 / Noble Qur’an.com)
Based on the interpretation of Ibn Kathir, explained: "Among His signs that show the greatness and perfection of His power, He created a woman who became your spouse comes from your own kind, and peaceful so that you tend to him. Had He made man in all men and women made from other types (such as from the jinn or animal), then of course there will be no union of hearts between them and your spouse (wife), they, on the contrary make the run, when the couple from other types. Then, between the perfection of His Mercy to the Children of Adam, He made their partners of their own kind between themselves and make sense of love (Mawaddah), ie, love and affection, compassion. " Expression of how the union of love, Kahlil Gibran in a poem stated:
What have I loved like a child who endlessly I love ... And, what I love now ... would love to end my life, because love is all that can be accomplished ... and no one will deprive me of her I want to love you with a simple ... like a word that had not spoken to the fire that makes wood ashes ... I want to love you with a simple ... like a gesture that could not be sent to the rain cloud that makes it dead. Similarly, more bluntly, a French moralist, whose name was Francois Dela. R (1613-1680), he said: "If one Judges love by most of its results, it is closer to hatred That Friendship 'If people judge the outcome of love because that means closer to hatred than friendship"
Where to Find Love
An when Plato asked his teacher about where to find love, his teacher advises: "There is a vast wheat field in front. Walk without you and may fall back, then take just one branch. If you have found a branch that you think is the most amazing, then you have found love. "But what happened, not how long Plato returned empty-handed, without bringing anything. Then the teacher asks: "Why, why did you not bring any sticks?" Plato said, "Teacher, I actually have found a twig of the most amazing, but I do not know if there is even more remarkable in ahead, so I did not pick these. And when I walked farther, then I realized that I had found twigs and sticks that were not as good, so ... finally I did not take , “ Sorry, I’m "
(Part One)
LOVE, a word of five letters that could be the most talked about. Love of course very relative. Can contain positive and negative meanings. On the positive side, with love will make life beautiful. If you look at the him, "ouch .. beauty", charming smile, he looked really stunning, her voice sounds. Short said "everything looks perfect", when in fact that others are assessing not the case. He said: "How your voice sounds, Dinda.". Though, actually "cemprengnya not playing." Therefore, there is a saying that says "love is blind". In addition to bringing the beauty of love, love, too, gave birth to the spirit of sacrifice. Let alone just waiting, he said in a song lyric:
I waited so long for your arrival Did not you have been promised we'll see you here Come, I waiting for your arrival It has long,long time I have been waiting for
Despite the long wait, because of love "not felt". Despite having to navigate the Indian Ocean, she said: "I'll join you." Maybe it really is a saying "Love will from it can not creep Nowhere Walk '- that love will creep where he could not walk." This means that the love will grow the courage to bear any risk, especially when love was so profound then anything might happen will be pursued as well. Expression of sacrificial love is never disclosed in one stanza poem Rabi'a Al 'Adawwiyah, he lived at the time of Caliph Harun al-Rashid
How sweet you are While life is bitter How good if you blessings Although all men hate
In one stanza poem that expressed by a beautiful girl in her time, which is famous for her beauty throughout the land, the name Bint Barriyah, also never expressed his love for his sincerity, his love for Sayid struggles Badawi:
O my fingers that read ink strokes Wisdom open the horizons for tasted Sincerity of my heart said to you moan Is love without limit ... I write about love in the hearts longing Hidden so deep in the recesses of my soul Although riding warlords able …I could not hide my heart said to you Indeed Love is not always with positive connotations, love can also significantly negative. A brave warlord could be losing the war for love: two people who fight each other even kill-kill due to issues of love, and there are many more other examples. That's love, the five letters that could make the problem will never be finished.
Phenomena Love
It feels lonely life without love. So, hidden treasures will be hidden forever. Without love, there is no a generation. That's something that can not be denied that love happens according to nature and instinct as the gifts of God Almighty.
Allah is saying, meaning: "And among his signs, that He created for you wives from among yourself, that you may find repose in them, and He hasput between you affection and mercy, verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. (Surah Ar-Rum (Rome) : 21 / Noble Qur’an.com)
Based on the interpretation of Ibn Kathir, explained: "Among His signs that show the greatness and perfection of His power, He created a woman who became your spouse comes from your own kind, and peaceful so that you tend to him. Had He made man in all men and women made from other types (such as from the jinn or animal), then of course there will be no union of hearts between them and your spouse (wife), they, on the contrary make the run, when the couple from other types. Then, between the perfection of His Mercy to the Children of Adam, He made their partners of their own kind between themselves and make sense of love (Mawaddah), ie, love and affection, compassion. " Expression of how the union of love, Kahlil Gibran in a poem stated:
What have I loved like a child who endlessly I love ... And, what I love now ... would love to end my life, because love is all that can be accomplished ... and no one will deprive me of her I want to love you with a simple ... like a word that had not spoken to the fire that makes wood ashes ... I want to love you with a simple ... like a gesture that could not be sent to the rain cloud that makes it dead. Similarly, more bluntly, a French moralist, whose name was Francois Dela. R (1613-1680), he said: "If one Judges love by most of its results, it is closer to hatred That Friendship 'If people judge the outcome of love because that means closer to hatred than friendship"
Where to Find Love
An when Plato asked his teacher about where to find love, his teacher advises: "There is a vast wheat field in front. Walk without you and may fall back, then take just one branch. If you have found a branch that you think is the most amazing, then you have found love. "But what happened, not how long Plato returned empty-handed, without bringing anything. Then the teacher asks: "Why, why did you not bring any sticks?" Plato said, "Teacher, I actually have found a twig of the most amazing, but I do not know if there is even more remarkable in ahead, so I did not pick these. And when I walked farther, then I realized that I had found twigs and sticks that were not as good, so ... finally I did not take , “ Sorry, I’m "
(A. Kuspriyanto / Mey, 2010, from various sources)
Senin, 21 Juni 2010
Demand Intentions Science
Allah says: "Though they were not ordered except to worship Allah with obedience to Him, purifying (only) with the straight religion." (Surat al-Bayyinah: 5)
INTENTIONS, that said people must all be with intent. Honestly, we probably own the actual understanding of what we intend. Intention is known in language that is objective, while according to the Shari'a requires something that is accompanied by deeds. The place of intention in the liver .
Umar was told, that the Prophet. has said: "Verily, all the charitable deeds only depend on the intentions of each, and each person only get what they intended." (History Khamsah) Imam Shafi'i hadith relating to the above, stating that in the hadith is contained half of science ( religion). Because the actual act of religious charity, there are two charities namely inner and outer charity. Charity is the intention of which is the inner heart work. "
Mansyur Sheikh Ali Nashif, in one discussion of intent, explaining that all the charitable deeds of Legal done by people mukallaf (both charitable deeds relating to a greeting or a job, whether fardhu or sunnah) is only with the intention, ie, if accompanied by intentions. However according to him such case is the limit (hashr) who are the majority (aktsari) instead of the whole (kulli), because there are really legitimate deeds even without intent, such as reading the Qur'an and adzan, as well as unauthorized leave things forbidden without a prior intention to rely even reward him. All expressions are intended to indicate mandatory in all the charitable deeds.
Therefore, perhaps we could do to straighten the intention in all our deeds, including also in search of knowledge. Because we are just not enough with words only, while our hearts are neglected and forgotten. There is a saying that goes "Appearances are deceptive '-' which was always a lie seemed born." That is when we see something good let's not easy to believe because often only looks good but really bad intentions.
According to Sheikh Az-Zarnujiy in Ta'limul Muta'alim, mentioned that people who intend to study in an attempt to make compulsory sciences as follows:
intend to seek Allah's Keridha
• intend to find happiness hereafter;
• intend to fight the ignorance itself, and all the fools;
• intend to turn the Islamic religion;
• intend to enshrine the Islamic religion with science;
• Responsive reasonable enjoyment and health agencies
Once the importance of intentions, so that the Prophet was never warned, "Many charities charitable deeds that shaped the world, and become the next charity because his intentions are good; and a lot of bad deeds for the Hereafter the world his intention to charity." Shaykh al-Ustadz Imamil Ajall Qawamuddin Hammad ibn Ibrahim ibn Isma 'il Al Ash-Shafar Anshariy read syi'ir dictation' Abu Hanifah:
Who on earth, then studying for the day
Luckily can glory, God's grace cicerone
Ouch, very lost prosecutor sacred science nan
only for a bite of rice, from the servant of Divine. "
And Allaah knows best
(A. Kuspriyanto, from various sources)
INTENTIONS, that said people must all be with intent. Honestly, we probably own the actual understanding of what we intend. Intention is known in language that is objective, while according to the Shari'a requires something that is accompanied by deeds. The place of intention in the liver .
Umar was told, that the Prophet. has said: "Verily, all the charitable deeds only depend on the intentions of each, and each person only get what they intended." (History Khamsah) Imam Shafi'i hadith relating to the above, stating that in the hadith is contained half of science ( religion). Because the actual act of religious charity, there are two charities namely inner and outer charity. Charity is the intention of which is the inner heart work. "
Mansyur Sheikh Ali Nashif, in one discussion of intent, explaining that all the charitable deeds of Legal done by people mukallaf (both charitable deeds relating to a greeting or a job, whether fardhu or sunnah) is only with the intention, ie, if accompanied by intentions. However according to him such case is the limit (hashr) who are the majority (aktsari) instead of the whole (kulli), because there are really legitimate deeds even without intent, such as reading the Qur'an and adzan, as well as unauthorized leave things forbidden without a prior intention to rely even reward him. All expressions are intended to indicate mandatory in all the charitable deeds.
Therefore, perhaps we could do to straighten the intention in all our deeds, including also in search of knowledge. Because we are just not enough with words only, while our hearts are neglected and forgotten. There is a saying that goes "Appearances are deceptive '-' which was always a lie seemed born." That is when we see something good let's not easy to believe because often only looks good but really bad intentions.
According to Sheikh Az-Zarnujiy in Ta'limul Muta'alim, mentioned that people who intend to study in an attempt to make compulsory sciences as follows:
intend to seek Allah's Keridha
• intend to find happiness hereafter;
• intend to fight the ignorance itself, and all the fools;
• intend to turn the Islamic religion;
• intend to enshrine the Islamic religion with science;
• Responsive reasonable enjoyment and health agencies
Once the importance of intentions, so that the Prophet was never warned, "Many charities charitable deeds that shaped the world, and become the next charity because his intentions are good; and a lot of bad deeds for the Hereafter the world his intention to charity." Shaykh al-Ustadz Imamil Ajall Qawamuddin Hammad ibn Ibrahim ibn Isma 'il Al Ash-Shafar Anshariy read syi'ir dictation' Abu Hanifah:
Who on earth, then studying for the day
Luckily can glory, God's grace cicerone
Ouch, very lost prosecutor sacred science nan
only for a bite of rice, from the servant of Divine. "
And Allaah knows best
(A. Kuspriyanto, from various sources)
Minggu, 02 Mei 2010
Menuju Keluarga Sakinah
EMPAT PILIHAN MENUJU KEMULIAAN HIDUP
Pada dasarnya kemuliaan atau kebahagiaan hidup seseorang terpulang kepada diri mereka sendiri. Allah dan Rosul-Nya telah menunjukkan jalan agar manusia dapat memperoleh kemuliaan atau kebahagiaan hidup, tentunya tidak hanya di dunia saja, melainkan di dunia dan akhirat.
Memang banyak jalan untuk mencapainya, akan tetapi banyak pula rintangan. Mudah bagi orang yang sungguh-sungguh dan beriman, akan tetapi berat bagi orang yang tidak sungguh-sungguh dan tipis imannya.
Pada kenyataannya, tak mudah meraih memuliaan. Berbagai jalan telah dicoba, segala cara pun telah ditempuh, namun ternyata tidak sedikit kita saksikan hamba Allah di kalangan umat ini bahkan terperosok berpacu dengan nafsu yang melampaui batas. Maka bila kita perhatikan , tipologi kehidupan di dunia tak akan lepas dari empat situasi :
Pertama, hidup Bahagia di Dunia, Tapi sengsara di Akhirat
Mereka hidup berkecukupan di dunia atau mungkin hidup bergelimang harta dan kehormatan, akan tetapi kebahagiaannya sebenarnya semu dan tidak abadi, sebuah akhir kehidupan sengasara. Lihatlah bagaimana kisah sang Hartawan Qorun, hidup sepertinya tak akan kekurangan materi sampai ‘tujuh-turunan’ , akan tetapi ternyata apa yang terjadi, di akhir hidupnya Qorun tak sempat mewariskan hartanya, bumi telah menelannya bersama seluruh apa yang dimilikinya.
Demikian halnya hidup para koruptor, kekayaan materi, kehormatan, jabatan serta seluruh fasilitas yang dinikmati ,yang telah diperjuangkan siang dan malam, tak peduli harus “sikat kanan-sikat kiri’’, tak pedulikan sesuatu itu diperoleh dengan cara yang halal atau haram, yang terpenting terpuaskan dan terpenuhi kebutuhannya. Akibatnya timbullah berbagai kecurangan, penindasan, penipuan dan penyalahgunaan hak.
Inilah fenomena zaman, sebagaimana diingatkan oleh Rasulullah SAW:’Akan datang suatu masa kepada manusia, dimana pada masa itu seseorang tidak lagi memperdulikan apa yang diambilnya, apakah dari yang halal atau dari yang haram’. (HR.Bukhari dan Nasa’I dari Abu Hurairah)
Lihatlah di akhir episode kekidupan mereka di dunia ini, kejayaan yang diperoleh di masa tugasnya pun sirna dan tinggallah kesengsaraan di akhir kehidupannya. Apalagi di akhirat nanti, mereka harus mempertanggungjawabkan di hadapan Allah SWT. Sementara hingga ajal datang, taubat pun belum sempat dilakukan. Naudzubillahi min dzalik.
Kedua, Hidup Sengsara di Dunia, Bahagia Di akhirat
Kehidupan di dunia ini tak akan mungkin dipenuhi oleh orang kecukupan dan bahagia semuanya. Dari sekian banyak umat ini tidak sedikit mereka yang hidup “pas-pasan’ atau bahkan orang umum menyebutkan sengsara. Rumah sangat sederhana atau bahkan hanya mampu ngontrak, sekedar berteduh dari sengatan panas mentari, perabot rumah ala kadarnya, mungkin hanya ada karpet sebagai alas. Soal makan seadanya bisa jadi lebih banyak puasa sunnat, senin-kamis. Pendek kata ini gambaran para faqir- miskin , tapi mereka bahagia, mereka merasa tidak miskin hatinya. Berjuang dengan apa yang dikaruniakan oleh Allah SWT, dengan tetesan keringatnya untuk mencari yang halal, menghidupi keluarganya, serta untuk menjaga harga diri dan kehormatannya.
Lihatlah Rosulullah SAW, para sahabat serta para sholihin, beliau tidak sedikit yang hidup dalam kemiskinan. Dalam kemiskinannya tak membuatnya melupakan Allah SWT; dalam kekurangannya tak membuatnya melalaikan ibadah kepada-Nya. Bahkan mereka sangat bersyukur, hari ke hari dijalani dengan sabar dan ikhlas hingga ajal menjemputnya, ia pun tersungging senyum kegembiraan, Allah SWT memberinya husnul khotimah insya Allah.
Ketiga, Hidup Sengsara di Dunia dan Sengsara di Akhirat
Ini tipologi hidup dari anak manusia yang sungguh sengsara. Hidup miskin, rumah tak punya, banyak utang ‘ngemplang sana-ngemplang sini, digusur sana-sini. Kendatipun tak punya, gaya hidup dan angan-angan seperti orang yang tak miskin. Kalau ada sedikit rizki, bukan untuk ditabung, akan tetapi ia gunakan untuk maksiat (judi, minum miras,dll). “Molimo (Madat, main, madon, minum, maling)”, dan sebagainya , segala atribut kemaksiatan pun dijalaninya. Pendek kata kefaqiran atau kemiskinannya tidak membuatnya sadar dan dekat kepada Sang Pencipta, tetapi justru semakin menjauh dari ibadah kepada Allah SWT.
Di episode akhir kehidupan di dunia, mereka mati tanpa pusara , tanpa nama dan tanpa penghormatan. Sengsara di dunia , apalagi di akhirat akan lebih sengsara. Naudzubillahi min dzalik
Keempat, Hidup Bahagia di Dunia dan Bahagia di akhirat
Ini tipologi kehidupan orang yang bahagia, hidup “enak-kepenak, tentrem ayem”. Hidup kecukupan, kendatipun hidup sederhana. Kekayaan atau hartanya tidak membuatnya melalaikan kuwajibannya; untuk mensukseskan tugas-tugasnya sebagai hamba Allah, menjalin silaturahmi dan menunaikan hak-haknya Allah SWT.
Alhamdulillah, ia dikaruniai Allah istri / suami yang sholeh/sholehah; anak-anak yang berbakti, ekonomi yang mapan dan berkah, serta berada di lingkungan yang sholih. Lengkaplah sudah kebahagiannya, kendatipun demikian ia menyadari bahwa hartanya atau apapun yang ia miliki adalah modal untuk ibadah, meraih keridhoan Allah, maka ia nafkahkan di jalan Allah. Allah SWT berfirman : “…Dan apa saja harta yang kamu nafkahkan (di jalan Allah), maka pahalanya itu untuk kamu sendiri. Dan janganlah kamu membelanjakan sesuatu melainkan karena mencari keridhaan Allah. Dan apa saja harta yang baik yang kamu nafkahkan, niscaya kamu akan diberi pahalanya dengan cukup sedang kamu sedikitpun tidak akan dianiaya (dirugikan).” (QS. Al-Baqarah 272)
Akhirnya pada akhir episode kehidupan, ia meninggalkan dunia yang fana ini, dengan membawa nama yang baik, amal sholih yang dengan ikhlas telah diperjuangkannya menghantarkan ia menghadap sang Khaliq dengan tenang, tersungging senyuman “husnul khotimah”. Akhir perjalanan hidup yang baik. Harta tak dibawanya, tapi iman dan amal sholeh yang mengantarnya menuju kehidupan yang abadi.
Demikian tadi tipologi kehidupan dunia yang beraneka-ragam, banyak pilihan sesuai dengan situasinya masing-masing. Agama telah mengajarkan pilihan mana yang terbaik sebagaimana Allah SWT berfirman : “Dan carilah pada apa yang telah dianugerahkan Allah kepadamu (kebahagiaan) negeri akhirat, dan janganlah kamu melupakan kebahagiaanmu dari (kenikmatan) duniawi..” (QS.Al Qashash 77). Sekarang pilihannya tergantung kepada kita, untuk menentukan pilihan yang terbaik. Semoga Allah SWT memberikan taufiq, hidayah serta inayahnya kepada kita dalam mengarungi bahtera kehidupan ini.
(K. Prie/ Depkes, Magelang/ Apr’2010)
Pada dasarnya kemuliaan atau kebahagiaan hidup seseorang terpulang kepada diri mereka sendiri. Allah dan Rosul-Nya telah menunjukkan jalan agar manusia dapat memperoleh kemuliaan atau kebahagiaan hidup, tentunya tidak hanya di dunia saja, melainkan di dunia dan akhirat.
Memang banyak jalan untuk mencapainya, akan tetapi banyak pula rintangan. Mudah bagi orang yang sungguh-sungguh dan beriman, akan tetapi berat bagi orang yang tidak sungguh-sungguh dan tipis imannya.
Pada kenyataannya, tak mudah meraih memuliaan. Berbagai jalan telah dicoba, segala cara pun telah ditempuh, namun ternyata tidak sedikit kita saksikan hamba Allah di kalangan umat ini bahkan terperosok berpacu dengan nafsu yang melampaui batas. Maka bila kita perhatikan , tipologi kehidupan di dunia tak akan lepas dari empat situasi :
Pertama, hidup Bahagia di Dunia, Tapi sengsara di Akhirat
Mereka hidup berkecukupan di dunia atau mungkin hidup bergelimang harta dan kehormatan, akan tetapi kebahagiaannya sebenarnya semu dan tidak abadi, sebuah akhir kehidupan sengasara. Lihatlah bagaimana kisah sang Hartawan Qorun, hidup sepertinya tak akan kekurangan materi sampai ‘tujuh-turunan’ , akan tetapi ternyata apa yang terjadi, di akhir hidupnya Qorun tak sempat mewariskan hartanya, bumi telah menelannya bersama seluruh apa yang dimilikinya.
Demikian halnya hidup para koruptor, kekayaan materi, kehormatan, jabatan serta seluruh fasilitas yang dinikmati ,yang telah diperjuangkan siang dan malam, tak peduli harus “sikat kanan-sikat kiri’’, tak pedulikan sesuatu itu diperoleh dengan cara yang halal atau haram, yang terpenting terpuaskan dan terpenuhi kebutuhannya. Akibatnya timbullah berbagai kecurangan, penindasan, penipuan dan penyalahgunaan hak.
Inilah fenomena zaman, sebagaimana diingatkan oleh Rasulullah SAW:’Akan datang suatu masa kepada manusia, dimana pada masa itu seseorang tidak lagi memperdulikan apa yang diambilnya, apakah dari yang halal atau dari yang haram’. (HR.Bukhari dan Nasa’I dari Abu Hurairah)
Lihatlah di akhir episode kekidupan mereka di dunia ini, kejayaan yang diperoleh di masa tugasnya pun sirna dan tinggallah kesengsaraan di akhir kehidupannya. Apalagi di akhirat nanti, mereka harus mempertanggungjawabkan di hadapan Allah SWT. Sementara hingga ajal datang, taubat pun belum sempat dilakukan. Naudzubillahi min dzalik.
Kedua, Hidup Sengsara di Dunia, Bahagia Di akhirat
Kehidupan di dunia ini tak akan mungkin dipenuhi oleh orang kecukupan dan bahagia semuanya. Dari sekian banyak umat ini tidak sedikit mereka yang hidup “pas-pasan’ atau bahkan orang umum menyebutkan sengsara. Rumah sangat sederhana atau bahkan hanya mampu ngontrak, sekedar berteduh dari sengatan panas mentari, perabot rumah ala kadarnya, mungkin hanya ada karpet sebagai alas. Soal makan seadanya bisa jadi lebih banyak puasa sunnat, senin-kamis. Pendek kata ini gambaran para faqir- miskin , tapi mereka bahagia, mereka merasa tidak miskin hatinya. Berjuang dengan apa yang dikaruniakan oleh Allah SWT, dengan tetesan keringatnya untuk mencari yang halal, menghidupi keluarganya, serta untuk menjaga harga diri dan kehormatannya.
Lihatlah Rosulullah SAW, para sahabat serta para sholihin, beliau tidak sedikit yang hidup dalam kemiskinan. Dalam kemiskinannya tak membuatnya melupakan Allah SWT; dalam kekurangannya tak membuatnya melalaikan ibadah kepada-Nya. Bahkan mereka sangat bersyukur, hari ke hari dijalani dengan sabar dan ikhlas hingga ajal menjemputnya, ia pun tersungging senyum kegembiraan, Allah SWT memberinya husnul khotimah insya Allah.
Ketiga, Hidup Sengsara di Dunia dan Sengsara di Akhirat
Ini tipologi hidup dari anak manusia yang sungguh sengsara. Hidup miskin, rumah tak punya, banyak utang ‘ngemplang sana-ngemplang sini, digusur sana-sini. Kendatipun tak punya, gaya hidup dan angan-angan seperti orang yang tak miskin. Kalau ada sedikit rizki, bukan untuk ditabung, akan tetapi ia gunakan untuk maksiat (judi, minum miras,dll). “Molimo (Madat, main, madon, minum, maling)”, dan sebagainya , segala atribut kemaksiatan pun dijalaninya. Pendek kata kefaqiran atau kemiskinannya tidak membuatnya sadar dan dekat kepada Sang Pencipta, tetapi justru semakin menjauh dari ibadah kepada Allah SWT.
Di episode akhir kehidupan di dunia, mereka mati tanpa pusara , tanpa nama dan tanpa penghormatan. Sengsara di dunia , apalagi di akhirat akan lebih sengsara. Naudzubillahi min dzalik
Keempat, Hidup Bahagia di Dunia dan Bahagia di akhirat
Ini tipologi kehidupan orang yang bahagia, hidup “enak-kepenak, tentrem ayem”. Hidup kecukupan, kendatipun hidup sederhana. Kekayaan atau hartanya tidak membuatnya melalaikan kuwajibannya; untuk mensukseskan tugas-tugasnya sebagai hamba Allah, menjalin silaturahmi dan menunaikan hak-haknya Allah SWT.
Alhamdulillah, ia dikaruniai Allah istri / suami yang sholeh/sholehah; anak-anak yang berbakti, ekonomi yang mapan dan berkah, serta berada di lingkungan yang sholih. Lengkaplah sudah kebahagiannya, kendatipun demikian ia menyadari bahwa hartanya atau apapun yang ia miliki adalah modal untuk ibadah, meraih keridhoan Allah, maka ia nafkahkan di jalan Allah. Allah SWT berfirman : “…Dan apa saja harta yang kamu nafkahkan (di jalan Allah), maka pahalanya itu untuk kamu sendiri. Dan janganlah kamu membelanjakan sesuatu melainkan karena mencari keridhaan Allah. Dan apa saja harta yang baik yang kamu nafkahkan, niscaya kamu akan diberi pahalanya dengan cukup sedang kamu sedikitpun tidak akan dianiaya (dirugikan).” (QS. Al-Baqarah 272)
Akhirnya pada akhir episode kehidupan, ia meninggalkan dunia yang fana ini, dengan membawa nama yang baik, amal sholih yang dengan ikhlas telah diperjuangkannya menghantarkan ia menghadap sang Khaliq dengan tenang, tersungging senyuman “husnul khotimah”. Akhir perjalanan hidup yang baik. Harta tak dibawanya, tapi iman dan amal sholeh yang mengantarnya menuju kehidupan yang abadi.
Demikian tadi tipologi kehidupan dunia yang beraneka-ragam, banyak pilihan sesuai dengan situasinya masing-masing. Agama telah mengajarkan pilihan mana yang terbaik sebagaimana Allah SWT berfirman : “Dan carilah pada apa yang telah dianugerahkan Allah kepadamu (kebahagiaan) negeri akhirat, dan janganlah kamu melupakan kebahagiaanmu dari (kenikmatan) duniawi..” (QS.Al Qashash 77). Sekarang pilihannya tergantung kepada kita, untuk menentukan pilihan yang terbaik. Semoga Allah SWT memberikan taufiq, hidayah serta inayahnya kepada kita dalam mengarungi bahtera kehidupan ini.
(K. Prie/ Depkes, Magelang/ Apr’2010)
MENUJU KELUARGA SAKINAH
RESEP UNTUK HIDUP BAHAGIA
Oleh : Akhmad Kuspriyanto
ESENSI dan tujuan hidup orang memang boleh beda .Ada sebagian orang mengangap bahwa hidup bahagia serba ada ,serba mewah dan serba kecukupan; punya kendaraan, punya rumah bagus, perabot lengkap, dsb. Akibatnya mereka harus berupaya mati-matian untuk meraih semuanya itu, walaupun tidak sedikit yang gagal mewujudkanya. Akhirnya kita hanya bisa bilang: “Gagal maning… gagal maning!”
Sementara itu sebagian yang lain meyakini bahwa pendapat demikian belumlah cukup meskipun dengan kesederhanaan orang dapat hidup bahagia karena kebahagiaan pada hakekatnya bukanlah dari orang lain tetapi dari dalam diri sendiri. Maka, ada benarnya sebuah ungkapan yang pernah dikutip penulis buku zen path to harmony.’’if you want to be happy,just be’’. Bila ingin berbahagia , berbahagialah!
Berikut ada resep murah yang bisa dilaksanakan, agar hidup kita bahagia di dunia dan akhirat, tapi ada syaratnya harus istiqomah yang antara lain sebagai berikut:
Pertama, jadilah orang yang tekun beragama
Dalam pandangan islam, masalah agama menjadi suatu fitrah (sesuatu yang yang melekat pada diri manusia dan terbawa sejak kelahirannya) Sebagaimana Alloh SWT berfirman dalam QS. Al-Rum :30 “Fitrah Alloh yang menciptakan manusia atas fitrah itu”. Ini berarti manusia tidak mungkin melepaskan diri dari agama. Maka dengan kata lain kalau kita mau bahagia juga harus tekun beragama.
Dengan agama maka akan menumbuhkan keindahan, melahirkan energi, memacu semangat pengorbanan. Oleh karenanya banyak orang miskin hidupnya sederhana, tempat di rumah sangat sederhana, dengan perabot-perabot ala kadarnya tapi kaya hatinya- merasa hidup bahagia. Demikian pula sebaliknya tanpa didasari pemahaman agama yang baik tidak sedikit orang kaya akan tetapi miskin hatinya, hidupnya gersang bagaikan ilalang tumbuh di padang yang gersang. Oleh karena itu, agama Islam mengajarkan kita bagaimana seharusnya menjalani hidup dan kehidupan ini.
Ada salah satu syair arab “man ‘arooda ayyathlubassa’aadata fiimaa ladaihi fathlubil ‘iktidaala fiimaa yaliihi” barang siapa yang menghendaki bahagia di dalam apa yang dihadapinya, maka carilah jalan sederhana di dalam apa yang ada padanya.
Persoalanya ternyata agama bukan menjadi sebuah kebutuhan kita. Faktanya ketika orang serba cukup, enjoy, “adem-ayem”, kita sering lupa mengingat Allah. Akan tetapi manakala sedang dihimpit masalah sehingga sudah tidak ada pilihan lain , nah… ini dia , “ya Alloh tolonglah hambamu ini yang dhoif”, kita pun berjam-jam iktikaf di masjidnya Allah.
Inilah profil seorang hamba kebanyakan, yang sangat mendamba hidup bahagia di dunia dan bahagia di akhirat. Rasanya malu kita, sehari-hari kita cuekin itu ibadah. Perintah-perintah-Nya belum tentu kita tunaikan, demikian pula larangan serta aturannya sering kita langgar pun tiada terlintas dosa dan penyesalan kita. Tiba-tiba kita datang menghiba, minta tolong kepadaNya, tanpa basa-basi dan etika minta segera dikabulkan. Segera? Ya, segera, seperti kebiasaan kita kalau sedang butuh. Astaghfirullah! Ya, Alloh, ampunilah hambamu ini.
Tapi Allah SWT , ya rohman, yaa rohiim ya ghofur Alloh yang menggenggam alam semesta ini, Dia yang Maha pengampun, selebar dunia ini akan membuka pintu maafnya untuk hambanya. Maka datanglah, segera sambut kesempatan yang ada sebelum terlambat.
Kedua, memahami tujuan hidup
Orang hendaknya memahami target perjalanan hidupnya. Setidaknya ada dua hal yang perlu ditanyakan, pertama, bagaimana kita mengenal diri kita sendiri. Kedua, bagaimana kita mengenal Tuhan Pencipta alam semesta ini.
Cukup rumit memang kalau kita hanya hengandalkan akal kita, karena akal hanya mampu menimbang yang bersifat materi.
Dalam konteks demikian ada yang mengelompokkan dua kategori yakni terlihat seperti benda, molekul, atom partikel dan tak terlihat meliputi quanta , energi vibrasi. Demikian pula yang berkaitan dengan pikiran dan perasaan kita yang merupakan ranah tak terlihat, yang lebih menarik justru pada “yang tak terlihat” itu tersimpan kebahagiaan kita yang bersifat hakiki.
Ternyata akal kita merasa berat untuk menimbang yang bersifat ghoib tersebut. juga seperti misterinya kematian , rizki dan jodoh manusia. Oleh karena itu, inilah menjadi ranah agama, ketika akal kita tidak mampu lagi menjawab secara pasti persoalan-persoalan hidup yang dihadapinya.
Ketika janin di dalam kandungan Alloh SWT sebenarnya telah menetapkan seseorang empat perkara ; Menetapkan rezkinya, ketetapan ajalnya, ketetapan amalnya, serta menjadi orang yang celaka atau bahagia.
Firman Allah SWT : “Wa maa kholaqtuljinna wal insa illaa liyakbuduun, yang artinya Dan Aku tidak menciptakan jin dan manusia melaikan mereka supaya menyembah-Ku.” (Q.S. Adz-Dzariyaat: 56)
Bila kita cermati ayat tadi secara harfiah, Allah SWT sebenarnya telah memberikan kesempatan yang sangat luas kepada kita untuk menjadikan segala aktivitas hidup dan persoalan ini menjadi bernilai ibadah di sisi-Nya. Rosulullah SAW pernah bersabda yang artinya :”dunia adalah sawah ladangnya akhirat”.
Ketiga, Realistis
Ada yang mengatakan lebih baik makan dengan ketela dalam kenyataan, daripada makan roti tapi dalam angan-angan. Orang yang banyak keinginannya tidak ubahnya seprti orang yang bermimpi , ketika tersadar dari mimpi , bisa jadi kita akan kecewa karena tidak menemukannya dalam kenyataan. Kita memang hidup di alam kenyataan. Maka seorang Pedongeng Yunani Aesop mengatakan Don’t count your chickens before they are hatched (jangan hitung anak ayam anda sebelum menetas).Mengandung maksud agar kita berhati-hati dalam segala sesuatu, untuk tidak memastikan sesuatu yang belum pasti terjadi.
Akan lebih baik bila dilakukan penyelarasan antara kebutuhan, keinginan dan kemampuan secara proporsional. Orang jawa bilang “jangan lebih besar pasak dari pada tiang”.
Maka menentukan sebuah ukuran (parameter) kebutuhan pun diperlukan prioritas, tingkat urgensinya (mendesak atau tidak), keperluannya, maksud/tujuannya bahkan manfaatnya.
Keempat, semangat berusaha
Hidup bahagia adalah kehidupan yang dinamis. Maka dengan semangat berusaha tersebut akan melahirkan sebuah harapan hidup. Maka berupaya sungguh-sungguh . Berupaya dengan dilandasi tekad yang kuat. Terus berupaya, pantang mundur. Suatu saat nanti dengan jerih payah kita, pasti akan menuai keberhasilan. Seorang Penghipnotis kondang namanya Marshal Silfer menyarankan “hiduplah setiap hari meskipun hari itu hari yang terakhir”.
Kelima, hidup sederhana.
Hidup sederhana adalah hidupnya orang yang qona’ah. Qona’ah artinya ridho (senang) dengan sedikitnya pemberian dari Alloh. Ia sudah merasa cukup, bukan lantaran pasrah/ menyerah terhadap takdir, melainkan karena telah berupaya menyempurnakan usaha.
Banyak diantara kita yang baru sekali mencoba , sudah menyerah. Coba lagi dong dan dicoba lagi. Maka Dr. Hamka seorang pakar Filsafat modern mengatakan bahwa qonaah adalah menerima cukup, yang mengandung lima perkara:
• Menerima dengan rela apa yang ada
• Memohonkan kepada tuhan tambahan yang pantas dan beruisaha
• Menerima dengan sabar akan ketentuan Alloh
• Bertaqwalah kepada tuhan
• Tidak tertarik oleh tipu daya dunia
Keenam, bersyukur
Kata “syukur” menurut kamus bahasa Indonesia, diartikan rasa terima kasih kepada Allah. Menurut sebagian ‘ulama berasal dari kata kasyara yang berarti membuka atau menampakkan nikmat. Sedangkan lawan kata syukur adalah kafara atau kufur yang artinya menutup atau melupakan nikmat Allah SWT.
Allah SWT berfirman “Jika kamu bersyukur pasti akan Ku-tambah nikmatKU untukmu, dan bila kamu kufur, maka sesungguhnya siksa-Ku amat pedih” (Q.S. Surat Ibrahim: 14).
Persoalannya, kadang kita banyak yang kurang bersyukur. Sudah memiliki satu, ingin dua , sudah punya dua ingin yang lain begitu seterusnya tiada akan berhenti sebelum maut menjemput kita. Sehingga Nabi pernah mengingatkan :”Bukanlah kaya itu karena banyaknya harta melainkan kaya yang sesungguhnya ialah kaya jiwa”.
Menurut Imam Al Ghazali, hakikat syukur mencakup tiga hal yaitu:
- ilmu tentang syukur yskni dengsn menyadari bahwa kenikmatan yang kita terima ini semata-mata dari Allah SWT
- Keadaan syukur, yakni dengan menyatakan kegembiraan karena memperoleh nikmat tsb;
- Amalan / perbuatan syukur, yakni dengan menggunakan nikmat tsb sebaik-baiknya sesuai tujuan yang memberi kenikmatan tsb.
Kalau kita dapat senantiasa mensyukuri setiap nikmat yang dikaruniakan Allah SWT kepada kita, sebagaimana janji Allah , maka pasti nikmat/ kebahagiaan itu akan ditambah dengan sendirinya.
Ketujuh, bersabar
Hampir pisa dipastikan bahwa semua orang pernah merasa susah, sedih, kecewa baik ringan ataupun berat , baik urusan pribadi maupun urusan dengan orang lain. Penyebabnya pun bermacam-macam. Ada yang sulit mendapatkan pekerjaan, ada yang frustasi karena masalah keluarga dan sebagainya. Pendek kata, hidup ini tak bisa lepas dari cobaan dan ujian, yang sewaktu-waktu bisa menimpa setiap orang.
Maka menghadapi problematika kehidupan ini hendaknya dengan penuh kesabaran. Tak akan pernah ada kebahagiaan tanpa perjuangan dan tak pernah ada perjuangan tanpa kesabaran. Oleh karena itu, mencari solusi untuk lepas dari kesulitan, bukanlah dengan lari atau menghindar dari kesulitan, akan tetapi menghadapi dan mengatasinya secara bijak, tenang dan tawakkal.
*) Perum Depkes, Magelang
MENUJU KELUARGA SAKINAH
EMPAT PILIHAN MENUJU KEMULIAAN HIDUP
Pada dasarnya kemuliaan atau kebahagiaan hidup seseorang terpulang kepada diri mereka sendiri. Allah dan Rosul-Nya telah menunjukkan jalan agar manusia dapat memperoleh kemuliaan atau kebahagiaan hidup, tentunya tidak hanya di dunia saja, melainkan di dunia dan akhirat.
Memang banyak jalan untuk mencapainya, akan tetapi banyak pula rintangan. Mudah bagi orang yang sungguh-sungguh dan beriman, akan tetapi berat bagi orang yang tidak sungguh-sungguh dan tipis imannya.
Pada kenyataannya, tak mudah meraih memuliaan. Berbagai jalan telah dicoba, segala cara pun telah ditempuh, namun ternyata tidak sedikit kita saksikan hamba Allah di kalangan umat ini bahkan terperosok berpacu dengan nafsu yang melampaui batas. Maka bila kita perhatikan , tipologi kehidupan di dunia tak akan lepas dari empat situasi :
Pertama, hidup Bahagia di Dunia, Tapi sengsara di Akhirat
Mereka hidup berkecukupan di dunia atau mungkin hidup bergelimang harta dan kehormatan, akan tetapi kebahagiaannya sebenarnya semu dan tidak abadi, sebuah akhir kehidupan sengasara. Lihatlah bagaimana kisah sang Hartawan Qorun, hidup sepertinya tak akan kekurangan materi sampai ‘tujuh-turunan’ , akan tetapi ternyata apa yang terjadi, di akhir hidupnya Qorun tak sempat mewariskan hartanya, bumi telah menelannya bersama seluruh apa yang dimilikinya.
Demikian halnya hidup para koruptor, kekayaan materi, kehormatan, jabatan serta seluruh fasilitas yang dinikmati ,yang telah diperjuangkan siang dan malam, tak peduli harus “sikat kanan-sikat kiri’’, tak pedulikan sesuatu itu diperoleh dengan cara yang halal atau haram, yang terpenting terpuaskan dan terpenuhi kebutuhannya. Akibatnya timbullah berbagai kecurangan, penindasan, penipuan dan penyalahgunaan hak.
Inilah fenomena zaman, sebagaimana diingatkan oleh Rasulullah SAW:’Akan datang suatu masa kepada manusia, dimana pada masa itu seseorang tidak lagi memperdulikan apa yang diambilnya, apakah dari yang halal atau dari yang haram’. (HR.Bukhari dan Nasa’I dari Abu Hurairah)
Lihatlah di akhir episode kekidupan mereka di dunia ini, kejayaan yang diperoleh di masa tugasnya pun sirna dan tinggallah kesengsaraan di akhir kehidupannya. Apalagi di akhirat nanti, mereka harus mempertanggungjawabkan di hadapan Allah SWT. Sementara hingga ajal datang, taubat pun belum sempat dilakukan. Naudzubillahi min dzalik.
Kedua, Hidup Sengsara di Dunia, Bahagia Di akhirat
Kehidupan di dunia ini tak akan mungkin dipenuhi oleh orang kecukupan dan bahagia semuanya. Dari sekian banyak umat ini tidak sedikit mereka yang hidup “pas-pasan’ atau bahkan orang umum menyebutkan sengsara. Rumah sangat sederhana atau bahkan hanya mampu ngontrak, sekedar berteduh dari sengatan panas mentari, perabot rumah ala kadarnya, mungkin hanya ada karpet sebagai alas. Soal makan seadanya bisa jadi lebih banyak puasa sunnat, senin-kamis. Pendek kata ini gambaran para faqir- miskin , tapi mereka bahagia, mereka merasa tidak miskin hatinya. Berjuang dengan apa yang dikaruniakan oleh Allah SWT, dengan tetesan keringatnya untuk mencari yang halal, menghidupi keluarganya, serta untuk menjaga harga diri dan kehormatannya.
Lihatlah Rosulullah SAW, para sahabat serta para sholihin, beliau tidak sedikit yang hidup dalam kemiskinan. Dalam kemiskinannya tak membuatnya melupakan Allah SWT; dalam kekurangannya tak membuatnya melalaikan ibadah kepada-Nya. Bahkan mereka sangat bersyukur, hari ke hari dijalani dengan sabar dan ikhlas hingga ajal menjemputnya, ia pun tersungging senyum kegembiraan, Allah SWT memberinya husnul khotimah insya Allah.
Ketiga, Hidup Sengsara di Dunia dan Sengsara di Akhirat
Ini tipologi hidup dari anak manusia yang sungguh sengsara. Hidup miskin, rumah tak punya, banyak utang ‘ngemplang sana-ngemplang sini, digusur sana-sini. Kendatipun tak punya, gaya hidup dan angan-angan seperti orang yang tak miskin. Kalau ada sedikit rizki, bukan untuk ditabung, akan tetapi ia gunakan untuk maksiat (judi, minum miras,dll). “Molimo (Madat, main, madon, minum, maling)”, dan sebagainya , segala atribut kemaksiatan pun dijalaninya. Pendek kata kefaqiran atau kemiskinannya tidak membuatnya sadar dan dekat kepada Sang Pencipta, tetapi justru semakin menjauh dari ibadah kepada Allah SWT.
Di episode akhir kehidupan di dunia, mereka mati tanpa pusara , tanpa nama dan tanpa penghormatan. Sengsara di dunia , apalagi di akhirat akan lebih sengsara. Naudzubillahi min dzalik
Keempat, Hidup Bahagia di Dunia dan Bahagia di akhirat
Ini tipologi kehidupan orang yang bahagia, hidup “enak-kepenak, tentrem ayem”. Hidup kecukupan, kendatipun hidup sederhana. Kekayaan atau hartanya tidak membuatnya melalaikan kuwajibannya; untuk mensukseskan tugas-tugasnya sebagai hamba Allah, menjalin silaturahmi dan menunaikan hak-haknya Allah SWT.
Alhamdulillah, ia dikaruniai Allah istri / suami yang sholeh/sholehah; anak-anak yang berbakti, ekonomi yang mapan dan berkah, serta berada di lingkungan yang sholih. Lengkaplah sudah kebahagiannya, kendatipun demikian ia menyadari bahwa hartanya atau apapun yang ia miliki adalah modal untuk ibadah, meraih keridhoan Allah, maka ia nafkahkan di jalan Allah. Allah SWT berfirman : “…Dan apa saja harta yang kamu nafkahkan (di jalan Allah), maka pahalanya itu untuk kamu sendiri. Dan janganlah kamu membelanjakan sesuatu melainkan karena mencari keridhaan Allah. Dan apa saja harta yang baik yang kamu nafkahkan, niscaya kamu akan diberi pahalanya dengan cukup sedang kamu sedikitpun tidak akan dianiaya (dirugikan).” (QS. Al-Baqarah 272)
Akhirnya pada akhir episode kehidupan, ia meninggalkan dunia yang fana ini, dengan membawa nama yang baik, amal sholih yang dengan ikhlas telah diperjuangkannya menghantarkan ia menghadap sang Khaliq dengan tenang, tersungging senyuman “husnul khotimah”. Akhir perjalanan hidup yang baik. Harta tak dibawanya, tapi iman dan amal sholeh yang mengantarnya menuju kehidupan yang abadi.
Demikian tadi tipologi kehidupan dunia yang beraneka-ragam, banyak pilihan sesuai dengan situasinya masing-masing. Agama telah mengajarkan pilihan mana yang terbaik sebagaimana Allah SWT berfirman : “Dan carilah pada apa yang telah dianugerahkan Allah kepadamu (kebahagiaan) negeri akhirat, dan janganlah kamu melupakan kebahagiaanmu dari (kenikmatan) duniawi..” (QS.Al Qashash 77). Sekarang pilihannya tergantung kepada kita, untuk menentukan pilihan yang terbaik. Semoga Allah SWT memberikan taufiq, hidayah serta inayahnya kepada kita dalam mengarungi bahtera kehidupan ini.
(K. Prie/ Depkes, Magelang/ Apr’2010)
Memang banyak jalan untuk mencapainya, akan tetapi banyak pula rintangan. Mudah bagi orang yang sungguh-sungguh dan beriman, akan tetapi berat bagi orang yang tidak sungguh-sungguh dan tipis imannya.
Pada kenyataannya, tak mudah meraih memuliaan. Berbagai jalan telah dicoba, segala cara pun telah ditempuh, namun ternyata tidak sedikit kita saksikan hamba Allah di kalangan umat ini bahkan terperosok berpacu dengan nafsu yang melampaui batas. Maka bila kita perhatikan , tipologi kehidupan di dunia tak akan lepas dari empat situasi :
Pertama, hidup Bahagia di Dunia, Tapi sengsara di Akhirat
Mereka hidup berkecukupan di dunia atau mungkin hidup bergelimang harta dan kehormatan, akan tetapi kebahagiaannya sebenarnya semu dan tidak abadi, sebuah akhir kehidupan sengasara. Lihatlah bagaimana kisah sang Hartawan Qorun, hidup sepertinya tak akan kekurangan materi sampai ‘tujuh-turunan’ , akan tetapi ternyata apa yang terjadi, di akhir hidupnya Qorun tak sempat mewariskan hartanya, bumi telah menelannya bersama seluruh apa yang dimilikinya.
Demikian halnya hidup para koruptor, kekayaan materi, kehormatan, jabatan serta seluruh fasilitas yang dinikmati ,yang telah diperjuangkan siang dan malam, tak peduli harus “sikat kanan-sikat kiri’’, tak pedulikan sesuatu itu diperoleh dengan cara yang halal atau haram, yang terpenting terpuaskan dan terpenuhi kebutuhannya. Akibatnya timbullah berbagai kecurangan, penindasan, penipuan dan penyalahgunaan hak.
Inilah fenomena zaman, sebagaimana diingatkan oleh Rasulullah SAW:’Akan datang suatu masa kepada manusia, dimana pada masa itu seseorang tidak lagi memperdulikan apa yang diambilnya, apakah dari yang halal atau dari yang haram’. (HR.Bukhari dan Nasa’I dari Abu Hurairah)
Lihatlah di akhir episode kekidupan mereka di dunia ini, kejayaan yang diperoleh di masa tugasnya pun sirna dan tinggallah kesengsaraan di akhir kehidupannya. Apalagi di akhirat nanti, mereka harus mempertanggungjawabkan di hadapan Allah SWT. Sementara hingga ajal datang, taubat pun belum sempat dilakukan. Naudzubillahi min dzalik.
Kedua, Hidup Sengsara di Dunia, Bahagia Di akhirat
Kehidupan di dunia ini tak akan mungkin dipenuhi oleh orang kecukupan dan bahagia semuanya. Dari sekian banyak umat ini tidak sedikit mereka yang hidup “pas-pasan’ atau bahkan orang umum menyebutkan sengsara. Rumah sangat sederhana atau bahkan hanya mampu ngontrak, sekedar berteduh dari sengatan panas mentari, perabot rumah ala kadarnya, mungkin hanya ada karpet sebagai alas. Soal makan seadanya bisa jadi lebih banyak puasa sunnat, senin-kamis. Pendek kata ini gambaran para faqir- miskin , tapi mereka bahagia, mereka merasa tidak miskin hatinya. Berjuang dengan apa yang dikaruniakan oleh Allah SWT, dengan tetesan keringatnya untuk mencari yang halal, menghidupi keluarganya, serta untuk menjaga harga diri dan kehormatannya.
Lihatlah Rosulullah SAW, para sahabat serta para sholihin, beliau tidak sedikit yang hidup dalam kemiskinan. Dalam kemiskinannya tak membuatnya melupakan Allah SWT; dalam kekurangannya tak membuatnya melalaikan ibadah kepada-Nya. Bahkan mereka sangat bersyukur, hari ke hari dijalani dengan sabar dan ikhlas hingga ajal menjemputnya, ia pun tersungging senyum kegembiraan, Allah SWT memberinya husnul khotimah insya Allah.
Ketiga, Hidup Sengsara di Dunia dan Sengsara di Akhirat
Ini tipologi hidup dari anak manusia yang sungguh sengsara. Hidup miskin, rumah tak punya, banyak utang ‘ngemplang sana-ngemplang sini, digusur sana-sini. Kendatipun tak punya, gaya hidup dan angan-angan seperti orang yang tak miskin. Kalau ada sedikit rizki, bukan untuk ditabung, akan tetapi ia gunakan untuk maksiat (judi, minum miras,dll). “Molimo (Madat, main, madon, minum, maling)”, dan sebagainya , segala atribut kemaksiatan pun dijalaninya. Pendek kata kefaqiran atau kemiskinannya tidak membuatnya sadar dan dekat kepada Sang Pencipta, tetapi justru semakin menjauh dari ibadah kepada Allah SWT.
Di episode akhir kehidupan di dunia, mereka mati tanpa pusara , tanpa nama dan tanpa penghormatan. Sengsara di dunia , apalagi di akhirat akan lebih sengsara. Naudzubillahi min dzalik
Keempat, Hidup Bahagia di Dunia dan Bahagia di akhirat
Ini tipologi kehidupan orang yang bahagia, hidup “enak-kepenak, tentrem ayem”. Hidup kecukupan, kendatipun hidup sederhana. Kekayaan atau hartanya tidak membuatnya melalaikan kuwajibannya; untuk mensukseskan tugas-tugasnya sebagai hamba Allah, menjalin silaturahmi dan menunaikan hak-haknya Allah SWT.
Alhamdulillah, ia dikaruniai Allah istri / suami yang sholeh/sholehah; anak-anak yang berbakti, ekonomi yang mapan dan berkah, serta berada di lingkungan yang sholih. Lengkaplah sudah kebahagiannya, kendatipun demikian ia menyadari bahwa hartanya atau apapun yang ia miliki adalah modal untuk ibadah, meraih keridhoan Allah, maka ia nafkahkan di jalan Allah. Allah SWT berfirman : “…Dan apa saja harta yang kamu nafkahkan (di jalan Allah), maka pahalanya itu untuk kamu sendiri. Dan janganlah kamu membelanjakan sesuatu melainkan karena mencari keridhaan Allah. Dan apa saja harta yang baik yang kamu nafkahkan, niscaya kamu akan diberi pahalanya dengan cukup sedang kamu sedikitpun tidak akan dianiaya (dirugikan).” (QS. Al-Baqarah 272)
Akhirnya pada akhir episode kehidupan, ia meninggalkan dunia yang fana ini, dengan membawa nama yang baik, amal sholih yang dengan ikhlas telah diperjuangkannya menghantarkan ia menghadap sang Khaliq dengan tenang, tersungging senyuman “husnul khotimah”. Akhir perjalanan hidup yang baik. Harta tak dibawanya, tapi iman dan amal sholeh yang mengantarnya menuju kehidupan yang abadi.
Demikian tadi tipologi kehidupan dunia yang beraneka-ragam, banyak pilihan sesuai dengan situasinya masing-masing. Agama telah mengajarkan pilihan mana yang terbaik sebagaimana Allah SWT berfirman : “Dan carilah pada apa yang telah dianugerahkan Allah kepadamu (kebahagiaan) negeri akhirat, dan janganlah kamu melupakan kebahagiaanmu dari (kenikmatan) duniawi..” (QS.Al Qashash 77). Sekarang pilihannya tergantung kepada kita, untuk menentukan pilihan yang terbaik. Semoga Allah SWT memberikan taufiq, hidayah serta inayahnya kepada kita dalam mengarungi bahtera kehidupan ini.
(K. Prie/ Depkes, Magelang/ Apr’2010)
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