Five Kinds of Love

Where to Find Love
part three)


LOVE, Jalaluddin Rumi said, "is a healer for the pride and arrogance, and the entire lack of self. And only those who are robed in love alone is not entirely selfless. " Meanwhile, Charlie W Sheed stating that love can appear in any form of friendship, dating, laugh together, sex, fun with each other in their respective friends.
It seems that people would love each of appreciation, according to the angle of view and what was felt. Thus we will find all kinds of love. L. Saxton for example, divides the love in; love altruism, friendship, sexual love, and love romance. Clear how may people will sacrifice all he had without any love? Or without any motivation? Therefore, it is my opinion there are many labels in love based on the trend of the main motivations.

First, Love Content
It was fine when there is an underlying love with the main motivation for choice of material. Who the hell do not need money? Want a date need money, want to invite friends for a walk or eat in need of money, want to go to the Bathroom also need money. In short almost every activity of life requires the name of money. Especially living in metropolitan cities, it is very difficult to live without money, although money is not everything.
The first group, this seems to notice that takes place during both process and goal of love is absolutely needed materials. Therefore, these groups base their main motivation in finding love on the basis of material selection.
They are rich, which has a nice house, nice vehicles, other facilities are complete and so forth. They are the people "have the" will to hope and get a special room.

Second, love's face
The second group is seen as a great love, containing the aesthetic values that do not always have to be rewarded with money alone, the perfection of appearance (beauty, voluptuous, etc.) will become the main motivation in discovering her love choices. Could be, here the people are "hooked" since first sight. Beauty or the appearance of being based on perfect green eyes made the main parameters. And the lucky person who was blessed with a beautiful appearance, in the second group is certainly a prominent place.

Third, the love of rank or position
The third group was made the throne as the main motivation in discovering her love choices. It's throne or position will be attached to the power (legitimacy) with various amenities. With the title, so people can get a pride or self respect. And the lucky people who have a job though not handsome or beautiful, in the third group is certainly a prominent place.

Fourth, the love of family
The fourth group, this view that families or nasab / descent with various accessories in a family plays an important role. Is inevitable that love / marriage really is their love and their Families. And so the importance of the role of a family. Wealth, beauty, position is not the first consideration for this group. But the good descendants of the families 'particular' according to their size could be the main motivation of their material in determining the choice of his love.
In one of history Syaikhain hadith, the Prophet never told about the Arab women better than women Ajam. And the word of the best Arab woman from the nomadic tribe of Quraysh is righteous, since they are most dear to her children and her husband was maintaining property.

Fifth, the love of noble morality
The fifth group is to see love as a great nature and instinct in order to happiness in this world and the hereafter. Consideration of a noble morality as the implementation of religion run properly. as taught by the Prophet: "Women married for four things, namely: because of their possessions, because of his position, because of her beauty, and because of his religion. Then choose a woman who has a religion (strong religion) you would have been lucky. "(Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim by Abu Hurairah ra)

A Reflection Love
Various typologies of love on top, just an option depending on the actual decision to each party according to what he believed in his heart of hearts. Prophet had indeed been reminded of some possibilities of choice. According to the History presented by Imam Ibn Majah and Imam Ahmad Bayhaqi Bazaar and says: "Do not marry a woman for her beauty, because beauty can probably make it rebellious, and do not you marry a woman because of his wealth, because wealth can make it be perhaps too far, but you marry him because of his religion; and black female slaves sesunggguhnya more mainstream religion (rather than more affluent women are pretty weak, but his religion). "
People across the street had complained: "That was the real desire, but it was obtained by calm. Beautiful ... no, not rich .... Clever in religion, not really. Respected family, let alone. In fact, that got like this, not the desired result. "That's a mate" is a mystery ", and they give advice, he said:" Please, "Bang". Not bad, there is help cook, help wash the clothes, and some company to sleep. Just be thankful for, ... than can not. "he says entertaining.
We all know that the general criteria of the most important is the religion and morality. Who would get the love / married woman / man devout and noble personality, then he will gain happiness of the world and the hereafter. While other criteria, depending on the situation and condition of each. Like, what the friends Jabir ra, he married a widow with a consideration of women who never married will be better able to nurture and take care of his sisters are still small pouch from his late father. He prefers to fulfill their duty to the wishes of his late father rather than his own in choosing a wife. This is a noble attitude which Allah approves. Jabir attitude shows have been arriving at the level of personal maturity and wisdom as taught to think of the Prophet.

Wallahu 'alam bi shawab ash.
(A. Kuspriyanto, Juny ‘ 2010)